Connecting With Every Student: Life Options

by Jennifer Krzewina, PhD, School Psychologist, Menasha High School

It’s Tuesday at 10:10 a.m. and for the next 30 minutes, students see a familiar face that they will be greeted by for the entire duration of their high school career. A connection. A caring adult. A relationship that could be one of the most important protective factors in buffering against truancy and dropout, and one of the most impactful factors in promoting school connectedness. For thirty minutes, two times a week, they will attend Life Options, a Menasha-born four-year curriculum and class that addresses the ever-changing needs of our high school population, but most of all the need to feel cared for by someone at school.

In this article, we will highlight a program unique to Menasha High school, one that has had a large impact on our students for the last ten years. We will offer an overview of its history, the curriculum content, and how it is linked to new Academic Career Plan state requirements. Finally, we will provide a sample lesson that offers a glimpse into the day-to-day grind of the program itself.

About Life Options

At Menasha High School, we realize that every student is on a unique path, and we have a responsibility to support them as they identify a plan and a back-up plan for after graduation. No matter their goals - whether it is the world of work, military, postsecondary school, or any other plan, we want them to leave here prepared for their journeys. Therefore, in addition to providing a safe place and adult connection for students, Life Options is an effort to develop practical and social skills in order to prepare them for the larger world. 

There is a reason that Life Options is a school-wide curriculum. Results from a growing number of research studies indicate that enhancing protective factors in all children and adolescents can increase resiliency, prevent risk behaviors, and reduce adverse health and educational outcomes. The Life Options curriculum is based on this premise. Although our school has many small group intervention programs to address specific health risk behaviors and mental health concerns (e.g. Student Assistance Programs, The CAT Project, United Way PATH program, etc.), Life Options addresses the physical and emotional health of all students at Menasha High School. 

The concept of Life Options started about ten years ago when a committee of community members from a variety of settings – businesses, non-profit organizations, and education met to brainstorm what a successful school in the twenty-first century looks like. They concluded that the most important components of student experiences include having a trusting relationship with an adult in school and student awareness of their postsecondary options. Shortly after this meeting, twelve staff members from Menasha High School worked together to create lesson plans related to relationships and postsecondary pathways. Life Options was born.

Since then, Life Options has been revamped several times. Most recently, new lessons and a more streamlined approach to information dissemination were designed by teachers and student services staff. No matter what lessons are changed, however, the underlying goals remain the same – to help prepare students for the future, to promote school connectedness, and to address overall emotional and physical health. 

Simple lesson plans and accessibility allows teachers to focus on their relationships with students. Every two months, Life Options lesson plans and relevant handouts are uploaded onto every teacher’s Google calendar. Time is set aside during monthly collaboration days and weekly grade-level meetings for teachers to discuss lessons and do any necessary preparation together. It also gives them a chance to share thoughts on previous lessons. In addition, every teacher is assigned a “Life Option Buddy” who substitutes for the class if a teacher is out of the building. This helps with consistency and helps ensure that students maintain feelings of safety and connection.

Below is a list of some current lesson topics:

Relationship-building

 Goal-setting/goal checks

Student resources at school

 Volunteering

Test anxiety

Academic resumes

Working resumes

Scholarships

Graduation requirements

Too Good for Drugs

Signs of Suicide

Stress-relief

Aspire/ACT test preparation

Applications

Financial literacy

Cultural awareness 

 

Service Learning

Volunteering, also known as “service learning,” is an important part of the culture at Menasha High School, and a key feature of the Life Options curriculum. It is a way to promote school-community connection as well as a greater awareness of community needs. Students are introduced to the concept as freshmen, when they learn that every Menasha student is required to complete nine hours of volunteer work for each year of enrollment at Menasha High School.

Those who go above and beyond the required number of hours may receive a special service cord at graduation. 

At Menasha High School, we have observed the impact of service learning on the mental health of our students. As research demonstrates, there are many benefits to volunteering. Engaging in selfless acts of kindness creates feelings of social connection. Connections with others in turn increase self-esteem and reduce the risks of mental health problems such as depression.

Academic Career Plans

Little did we know that what happens in Life Options would so closely align with the new Academic Career Plan (ACP) state requirements, which will soon be mandatory for every high school in the state. ACP requirements involve students documenting their academic and career progress, plans, and goals in an online system called “Career Cruising”. The system aligns well with Life Options lessons and allows for students, parents, and teachers to view student growth.

Conclusion

As previously stated, the ultimate goal of Life Options is for students to feel connected with a trusting adult in the building for the duration of their time at Menasha High School. Additional emphasis is placed on service learning, goal-setting and postsecondary planning, and coping with difficult situations. Twice a week, for thirty minutes, students can expect the same teacher, same group of peers, and same compassion as any other Tuesday or Thursday they will spend at the high school. And with so many potential inconsistencies and changes that come up on a daily basis in their lives, it is often the one place that makes all the difference.

Example Lesson 

9/27/16 Healthy Strategies to Cope with Stress

Grade Level 9 and 10

Learning Target/Purpose: Students will learn strategies to stay healthy during stressful situations

Language target/purpose

Materials: whiteboard or chalkboard, paper clips, colored pencils or crayons

Procedure:

1.As a class, brainstorm and post all the stresses that students their age need to deal with:
  • in school (socially and academically)
  • at home (stay basic and do not share extreme personal examples with entire class)
  • in friendships
  • In dating situations (either personal experience or watching friends struggles who are dating)
  • using or reading social media

2. Read: “Today is National Bullying Prevention Day. Today and Thursday, we are not going to focus on mean acts or those who make a decision to complete a  mean act, today we are going to be mindful of all the ways we can use healthy strategies to deal with the stresses that we all have or could encounter in life.”

3. Put a few paper clips around the room. Tell the students you are going to play a game. Have them take out a piece of scratch paper and a writing utensil. Give the students one minute to write down the use of a paperclip (Be very careful and only say that statement - do NOT elaborate or give them any other instruction). At the end of one minute, ask the students to total their ideas they wrote down. After they have a total, explain to them that when the average kindergartener is asked to complete the same activity, they run out of time and can’t share their ideas. Some of them have up to 100 uses!!!!  Reflection Questions:

  • What has happened between K-now to limit your ideas on the use of paperclips?
  • Has school, home, or work taught you to limit your ideas? If yes, how?
  • Are you ever stressed about giving a wrong answer in school? Why?

4. Lead the discussion to the word: Mindful. Explain that being Mindful means you can separate yourself from rules that have been set by other people and allow yourself to create new ideas and ways to learn or complete tasks.

Share this story:

“A blind man had a great group of friends who could all see. The friends were planning to take a vacation together and decided that it would be fun to go downhill skiing. The friend who was blind was not present during the conversation about the trip and the seeing friends suddenly became very worried they would hurt his feelings because he couldn’t go with them. The seeing members of the group decided to talk to him. While they were talking and explaining the situation to him, he laughed a little and asked if he could hear. The seeing friends were confused until he added that he would love to go skiing with them and he knew  a way to make it work. If they would put  a bell on their poles and ski in front of him, he could follow and be safe.”

Sometimes in life we forget that what we have been told is truth, may not be truth for us. We have to allow ourselves to open our minds to see what is possible, even if others are telling us something is not possible.

Examples of this could include:

Mindless:

Your parent/guardian tells you repeatedly that they struggled with math so you will too.

Mindful:

You may struggle with math, however you might also excel you just need to attempt with a good attitude to find out for yourself.

Mindless:

Media and adults say over and over that there is too much pressure on teens nowadays and there is no way for a teen to handle all the pressure.

Mindful:

Teens do feel pressure at times, but so do adults and we are all capable of finding ways to keep that pressure at a level that is not negatively impacting our lives. 

We are going to spend the rest of today and all of Thursday practicing different strategies that may or may not work for you to relieve stress in healthy ways. Your job is to stay mindful and put together a group of strategies that do work for you.

If you have time: you can start looking at and practicing strategies. Otherwise, you can practice the strategies on Thursday. This is the break to split the lesson between Tuesday and Thursday.

Read:

“Picture your life like a three legged stool. One leg represents home, one leg school, and the third leg friends/relationships. If you have stress in one or two areas, the stool can still find a balance. If you have stress in all three areas - you need to use strategies to get your balance back!!! If you don’t use healthy strategies, time can eventually bring balance back but it is very tempting in those really bad times to use unhealthy strategies to feel good that can create consequences that could last your entire life.”


 Here are strategies to try: 

1. Visualization- get comfortable by closing your eyes and putting your head down while I read you the following script. Try and turn the words into pictures in your mind.

The Big White House

This script helps older children and teens to gain perspective and deal with everyday stress.  (From Guided Imagery For Healing Children and Teens by Ellen Curran):

Imagine walking along a long white beach. You can hear the gulls and the gentle roll of the waves. Your feet sink into the warm, white sand. It is quiet and safe. You are alone walking into the soft sea wind. The sun is shining down on you, making you warm. You have been looking for a place to be quiet and comfortable. This feels as if it is your beach, yours alone.

You stop and stand, looking out over the immense expanding ocean. It shows its green top-water, it’s purple mid-water, and its gray powerful underwater. The colors are mixing and churning, creating the bubbly white crest at the top of each wave. The roll of each wave sounds like the Earth, breathing. O…cean. O…cean. Over and over again with each wave.  You feel the power of the ocean and the Earth.

A short distance ahead of you, you now notice a big, white house. It is beckoning to you. It looks like a temple or small castle of some sort. You walk towards it, relaxed and interested. Your follow a short path to the house and see that the large door is open. Your feel that it is perfectly OK for you to go inside. It is safe and calm.

You step out of the sunshine and into the coolness of this beautiful house. You find yourself in a huge hallway with plants and paintings. A magnificent, marble staircase stands before you. You know you want to go up those stairs. You become aware of a very heavy backpack that you have been carrying all this time. The backpack is full of your worries, troubles, concerns, and negative feelings. You have been carrying them for a long time and you realize that this backpack is weighing you down. Your shoulders ache, and your back feels tight and stiff from all these feelings.

Slowly remove your backpack and with it all your worries and concerns. You feel released, free! You can now easily ascend the staircase. Each step you take, you become lighter, happier, and quieted. Each step brings you closer to absolute comfort and joy. The comfort and joy live in you, and now there is nothing to get in the way of feeling them, reaching them, having comfort and joy.

Now at the top of the stairs, you are strong and certain. A large window is open at the top of the stairs, and in front of it is a big, white comfortable chair. You sit down and face the window, watching the magnificent ocean once again. This time is yours. You watch from your chair, by your window in your house. Breathe in the soft ocean air, and know you are home.”

2. Coloring or other calming activity: for five minutes in quiet or with soft music, let the students color the provided coloring page: http://static1.squarespace.com/static/5511fc7ce4b0a3782aa9418b/t/556805b5e4b0f0a8f2e5e1fe/1432880565393/free-sandcastle-adult-coloring-page.gif

3. Breathing Activities: try all three listed below:

Balance

How it’s done: Balance can do a body good, beginning with the breath. To start, inhale for a count of four, then exhale for a count of four (all through the nose, which adds a natural resistance to the breath). Got the basic pranayama down? More advanced yogis can aim for six to eight counts per breath with the same goal in mind: Calm the nervous system, increase focus, and reduce stress, Pacheco says.

When it works best: Anytime, anyplace—but this is one technique that’s especially effective before bed. “Similar to counting sheep, if you’re having trouble falling asleep, this breath can help take your mind off the racing thoughts, or whatever might be distracting you," Pacheco says.

Level of difficulty: Beginner

 Abdominal Breathing Technique

How it’s done: With one hand on the chest and the other on the belly, take a deep breath in through the nose, ensuring the diaphragm (not the chest) inflates with enough air to create a stretch in the lungs. The goal: Six to 10 deep, slow breaths per minute for 10 minutes each day to experience immediate reductions to heart rate and blood pressure, McConnell says. Keep at it for six to eight weeks, and those benefits might stick around even longer.

When it works best: Before an exam or any stressful event. But keep in mind, “Those who operate in a stressed state all the time might be a little shocked how hard it is to control the breath,” Pacheco says. To help train the breath, consider biofeedback tools such as McConnell’s Breathe Strong app, which can help users pace their breathing wherever they are.

Level of difficulty: Beginner

Progressive Relaxation

How it’s done: To nix tension from head to toe, close the eyes and focus on tensing and relaxing each muscle group for two to three seconds each. Start with the feet and toes, then move up to the knees, thighs, glutes, chest, arms, hands, neck, jaw, and eyes—all while maintaining deep, slow breaths. Having trouble staying on track? Anxiety and panic specialist Dr. Patricia Farrell suggests we breathe in through the nose, hold for a count of five while the muscles tense, then breathe out through the mouth on release.

When it works best: At home, at a desk, or even on the road. One word of caution: Dizziness is never the goal. If holding the breath ever feels uncomfortable, tone it down to just a few seconds.

Level of difficulty: Beginner

4. Write a stress belief you have down on paper and then think about it Mindfully and try and determine if there are facts to back up you should be stressed or if you need to change your thinking. 

Example: I am terrible at English so I am going to fail this entire school year.

Mindful thinking would ask:

Can I tell the future? No, so I don’t really know I will fail for sure.

Did I do everything I should have done in English in the past to find success? If no, maybe I can do it, I just didn’t try.

Do I compare myself to others I think are smarter than me? If yes, why don’t I look at the all the time and work they put in. Maybe if I did that too I would have the same result

 

References 

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. School Connectedness: Strategies for Increasing Protective Factors Among Youth. Atlanta, GA: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services; 2009.

Corporation for National & Community Service, Office of Research and Policy Development. The Health Benefits of Volunteering: A Review of Recent Research, Washington, DC 2007.

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